An avalanche sized epiphany

I’m a weirdo, surprise!

What a beautiful start to an ocean deep thought process.


I have been in a mental conflict in my own mind about freedom.

I keep talking about freedom choice and being yourself.

The honestly to your own self.

This time the trigger was unexpected, a job search!

Not bragging here. Not trying to be bratty but when I was starting off (years ago) I had a bar in my mind that I wasn’t willing to lower even though everyone told me I’m expecting too much.

And guess what, I wasn’t.

I landed the job above the bar I set for myself. I started of with a big 4 firm (regular readers must be tired of this shameless bragging by now)

Those were different time. Fresh qualified, no illness, parents still spoiling us at least in material sense.

And we thought we were working..LOL

When I remember my dad wouldn’t even let me pay for the fuel that was only being burned for me in the car and he was strict about it.

So I was working in luxuries, and hate to admit still was a spoiled little whiner.

And now after multiple damages I feel like I’m stranded in a desert with no sight of a road, water, any trace of life.

And then you start thinking…okay maybe if I find a puddle of mud, that would be gatorade..i meant great..

So is it all about time and situation??

I got rejected from a place that didn’t even have proper furniture or hierarchy.

And I am still scarred by the loss (not of life) of a close friend. Trust me this hole is never getting filled.


I was losing my footing. I was losing hope.

But then I was thinking about freedom.

This is a battle for freedom. But what is freedom?

You have a certain living standard you start living between invisible walls to maintain that impression. It’s exhausting but inevitable. Sounds like fight club (is that why I love fight club?)

You can’t look or behave a certain way when it’s not expected from you and that’s your prison!

That’s where it starts and goes back to. That’s the whole circle.

I have worded it, I have tried to explain it to people and failed but that’s what it is in the end.

I’m sorry it’s going to be a long post but I’m having an epiphany here.

If I’m fighting to be free, how free can I be?

If I start living on streets I will still have to feed and clothe myself or I will starve and die. For that I will need money. So earning or begging. Both need dependance on another human.

If I choose a jungle. Well I can never compete animals they will rip me apart in 2 minutes or will scream and die at the sight of an insect.

I can’t climb trees, sleep on bench, and I need clean food and water.

My mind couldn’t go lower than streets and jungle, you can’t even imagine a desert because there I will be in plane sight and most unprotected creature in the entire universe. Trees would be safer than me.

So. No matter what I do. Being an adult I will be dependent on money and that doesn’t grow on trees, I checked.

Now, let’s sit back and accept the fact that we are always connected and dependent on anyone.

Then why chose the worst prison possible? Why not chose a comfortable one. Trust me there are many, I checked that too.

So I am planning to change entire job search strategy.

I will focus on where I want to be and what I want to do. And since I’m not too stubborn in my requirements I will find a good fit for myself eventually.

Ah I just did my own therapy.

But before the next search I need to press the refresh button and declutter my mind.

I started watching Sherlock, Benedict Cumberbatch one. And I’m loving it.

Sam (my bff) is shocked as I don’t watch series but this one is worth it.

Back to the topic!!

Few days back I asked about what’s a good life and we all concluded in the end you have a good life when you are comfortable with yourself.

All of this require a balance and little madness. Just a little bit.

We all have to face some sort of imprisonment to survive and survival is subjective.

It depends what’s okay for you.

So don’t go after something that will turn you into what you are not and would never want to be.

If you can, always chose something that can being some sort of satisfaction to you or it will suck any willingness to live out of you. It will suck any remote chance of happiness that you have in life.

So, where is the refresh button?

Im closing all the tabs. Adding a few things to my resumé. Make a separate one for creative jobs and then we will start over again.

With new page, new sharp pencil and new vigor!

Thanks for tolerating this avalanche of words..and me..

Kindly visit my post Warriors Invited To Raise Mental HealthAwareness where I am inviting Mental Health Warriors to submit their blog’s address so that we can join hands to control this wildfire.

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Here’s the link to my debut poetry collection => Swinging Sanity

Here’s the link to my post about the book –All About Swinging Sanity

17 thoughts on “An avalanche sized epiphany

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  1. Best to stay in (relative) comfort with a stable address, access to clean clothing, a shower, etc. while you are job hunting, even if you have to tolerate an annoying situation. You’ll feel much worse on the street, more desperate to take any shitty thing. Now, at least you have the luxury of a bed to sleep in. But keep looking every day! Make sure your resume is polished and you’re accessing all the resources you can for any opportunities. ❤️


    1. You worded the whole plan for me. Those were the thoughts I had. I better avoid a situation where I will have to take any job.
      I keep polishing and customizing my resumé and I have started ringing my sources but job market is bad so there’s not much anyone can do. Let’s see.. ❤❤

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  2. Several points to be made: the puddlewater as Gatorade: that’s perspective, and you’ll get sick drinking that, btw. Also, you are once again perturbed because you have let others determine your self-worth. Now I might sound like I’m high and mighty, immune to such concerns, but no, and I also see one of my own mistakes reflected here with your situation, my friend. Hope you get the situation ironed-out to your liking, too. “gainfully employed” “a providentially-inclined success curve” and all that.


    1. How can I do that. The question is HOW?? I know people have started gaining control over my own mind but I don’t know how to avoid it. I can tell a mirror that I’m awesome but in the end people are the judge. I know it’s wrong but what I can do. Being myself doesn’t seem to work all the time


      1. Aha. You could tell the mirror that you are awesome, but really, is that what you want? another point, most people have me “pegged wrong”, or misunderstand me. one side says I’m on the other side, and vice versa. always like that. I can’t depend on what people think of me, because it varies so. You might infer that I don’t do well on job interviews, and I would agree that most have been really, really bad.

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      2. o my God that sounds like story of my life! people have opinions that contradict with each other and sometimes leave me who am i..
        ahaha you have a nice hold of your mind I’m jealous.


  3. I remember my favorite jobs were the two things I loved doing. A switchboard operator and a veterinary receptionist. I am a total animal person. It’s not really a job if you enjoy what you do.


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